Our loving bond with our animal compansons doesn't end with our physical separation.
Animals know the physical world is a temporary and minor stop on the spiritual journey; they want us to know we
don't have to say goodbye.   Loving your animal friend by hearing and honoring its final wishes is a blessing to you both.

Lisa earned  an M.A. in Pastoral Ministries from St. Thomas University  with a specialization in Loss and Healing.  She is experienced and comfortable with
end of life issues we face with our animals and with people.  After receiving her degree,she trained as a Hospice chaplain, which included seven months in a hospital hospice unit
working with patients and families.  Because she is also an intuitive, Lisa is able to communicate with those in spirit to help the grieving heal in their own time, in the way most
appropriate for them.

Too often, at the end of an animal's life,  people berate themselves with  doubt and fear:

Did I do enough to help him?
  How did I miss his pain?
  Does she know how much I loved her?
  Was there more I could have done?
  Is it my fault? Is she angry?
  Does he forgive me?  
  Did I wait too long?
  Tell him I'm sorry.

An end-of-life communication helps to dispel doubts and ease the transition so it is  a loving, intimate experience for both of you.
You learn your animal's true wishes and begin to release your own undeserved guilt.  

I help  clients through grief counseling, memorializing pets through  ritual and ceremony, and communicating with animals after
they depart the earthly plane.  I communicate with the animals who have passed over.

Surviving the Loss of a Pet: Tips to Get through the Grief
Your animal has died and you are distraught. You have never felt such deep and prolonged loss and are afraid to share this with
others who will minimize and perhaps dismiss your pain as misplaced or trivial. Wrong. All of use who have shared life with animals
have entered and emerged from this unavoidable black hole, and we'll likely revisit it as long as we live with animals whose life spans

1. Give yourself permission to grieve, and give your self permission to grieve hard. Experience it. Embrace it, even. It's real and it's potent.
Avoiding grief, burying it, masking it will guarantee its future re-emergence as larger and more devastating threat to your well being.

2. Remember. Remember the joy and mischief, the games and training, the intimacy and the frustration, the quiet support and cuddles
your dog gave you when he sensed you needed them most.

3. Talk about your memories, especially with other dog people who understand and with those who knew your dog. Allow them to share
their memories as well.

4. Make the memories visual. Place photographs of your dog around the house so you connect with him or her consciously at ever turn.
Our animals want us to remember them this way. Keep in mind that in their consciousness, they have not left us. They have simply changed
form. They're still with us. We need to focus on that reality their energy remains with us.

5. Create a memorial, a photo collage, an altar, a scrapbook chronicling your dog's life.

6. Avoid people who do not understand your grief, who tell you, "It was just a cat (or dog or bird). You can always buy another one.  
As my grandmother would have said, "Feh!"

7. Do something to connect with your animal in spirit through dreams, where our spiritual selves are free to roam unencumbered by bodies.
Before falling asleep, you can look at photographs of your dog or cat or meditate briefly on your relationship. SEE yourselves together. Hold
this as your last mental image as you shut the light.

8. Carry an object with your animal's energy: a photo, a toy, even a "baby" tooth. It will comfort you and connect you to your animal in spirit
in a very psychic way. When I lost my soul mate dog, Seamus, I slept with his collar in my pillowcase for months.

9. Create a memorial service. I've seen quite a few of these and have written some for clients.
Invite friends and family -- even other dogs -- to your home or to a park or favorite outdoor place where you can share stories, read a poem

10. Create. If you paint, paint your dog's portrait. If you write, write a story or memoir. Sew. Quilt. Dance.

11. READ about other people's animals for entertainment, to remind you of the joy you shared rather than the grief that seems to impale you.
Look for stories about antics and misadventures. Please -- read James Thurber! You'll relate and laugh from the belly doing it.

12 . Consider getting another dog or cat, not to replace the one who has died but to HONOR him . The one thing dogs enjoy most is other dogs.
They are pack animals and having loved you as their pack leader do not want you to live alone. The want you to cherish their memory and grieve
without losing yourself to that grief. They do not want you to suffer; they want you to recover. Welcoming another animal, whether it is a puppy
from a breeder or an older rescue, is your chance to shower a new friend with the calibre of love with which you gifted your old friend. Consider
the circularity of life and love in that the blessing your animal gave to you will be continued as you bless the new one in your life. It by no means
eclipses the relationship you had with your animal. In fact, it's just the opposite; it strengthens it.

When my first schnauzer, Kasha, died, I was reluctant to consider another one until a secretary in my department gave me this essay to read.
When I finished it, I found a breeder in St. Petersburg, FL readied my home for the entry of a new pup in HONOR of the one I'd just bid farewell.
This essay will certainly help you, too. It's Eugene O'Neill (actually, it was written by Eugene O'Neill's dog), The Last Will and Testament of Silverdene Emblem O'Neill:

copyright 2011 Lisa Shaw


Helpful Resources

Association for Pet Loss and Bereavement
www. aplb.org

Cornell University Pet Loss Support Hotline

Coping with the Loss of a Pet

AVMA Guidelines for Pet Loss Support Services

Links to Internet Pet Loss Resources

In Memory of Pets

Learning How to Say Goodbye

and don't forget to search for the many links to the Rainbow Bridge poem